Balboa Press (20150
Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views (11/15)
In “The Hero in Heroin,” Mindy Miralia takes us on the journey that she shared with her son from his birth, through his addiction, and ultimately to his suicide when he was 31. Even then, their story goes on, because Mindy and Micah were able to experience healing after his death. Our usually mundane appearing world did not allow her loss to limit her son’s opportunity to continue to heal and to let her know that he loved her.
Written from a perspective that radiates unconditional love, Mindy takes us down a path that seems too painful to even begin to contemplate. By sharing their story with us, we learn about the pitfalls of addiction. When Micah started experimenting with drugs at age 15, Mindy began reaching out for professional help. This involved learning how to handle herself so that she could best serve him. I was impressed with her resilience during the most painful times. Having a husband that was emotionally absent, Mindy was left to do the best that she could on her own.
Personally coming from a place where I am burned out in a profession where I try to help a lot of people who do not want to be helped, the author’s lessons really hit home with me. She really summed it up when she said, “We are simply actors in the play of the journey of life, here to support others on their path-not to take the journey they have chosen away from them or dictate how it should be lived.” I have to learn to step back and let go of the angst that I feel when I see someone suffering because they are refusing help. If a mother can do it, I should be able to as well, especially since I am not sharing the level of emotional connection that one would with a child. With addiction, watching the cycle of recovery and relapse is especially painful.
The feelings I experienced while reading, “The Hero in Heroin” will stay with me for a long time. Having the opportunity to read her son’s writings made me feel like I knew him. Seeing that a parent can go through such a loss and emerge from the darkness gives one hope that others can be healed. It also reminded me that I need to get back on my spiritual path, because along with feeling burned out comes emptiness and hopelessness. Time to put my oxygen mask back on and take care of myself, and it is time to step back and allow others to do what they need to do to learn the lessons that they need to learn. I am so grateful to Mindy Miralia for her willingness to open her life up to us and allow us to learn from her experiences.